27
November

Long Ago

I met J.D. in High School, as part of the circle of friends I hung out with for my Sophomore and Junior year. We all got rides to and from school in a Charger, and played D&D. I remember when he started his webservice and email, Cybernothing (because nothing is better just because it’s cyber), and that was my main email for many, many years.

I remember that he gave us all our first taste of tofu. I’d never heard of it, and here it was on a plate in a brick with some brown liquid over it… and we all tried it and, well, weren’t terribly impressed.

He took me to the only Rave I’ve ever been to, up in Northern California when I was visiting with my family. We drove overnight, and ended up stumbling exhausted to a hotel. The guy running it was surly, but he rented us a room to collapse for a few hours before we kept going. The Rave itself was an amazing, outdoor experience. I’ll never forget the circles of people, or falling asleep to the sound of music and rising to the sound of drums. I drank Chai there for the first time, and danced until my feet were raw.I’m not sure I ever thought to thank him for what that experience gave me.

My deepest and warmest condolences to those who were part of J.D.’s present from someone who was part of J.D.’s past.

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27
November

Will miss you

never working directly with message abuse I did get to work with J.D. in a supportive function. when he fashioned long hair he reminded me of a young Benjamin Franklin, innovative and passionate, quirky yet decisive. it seemed that when he spoke all around would stop to listen. his smile was infectious and his words, rarely over expressed, were concise and to the point.

will miss you.

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18
November

I knew him on Usenet.

JD was one of the first people I knew on Usenet – perhaps not a mentor,
but not that far from it either. He co-moderated newsgroups with me; he
ran my backup DNS; as I recall, he even helped with The Dungeon back in
the day.

I never figured out that he lived down the street.

I never actually met JD.

        And now I will mourn him.

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17
November

Say hello to Heaven…

JD…  goddamn. A month ago, you told me via email that you were feelin’ all right. I reminded you to go out on your front step on October 31 and “holler ‘WEEN'”, like you mentioned once, years ago.

I’m lucky to have known you. I got to call you a good friend. And, even if I never quite spelled it out for you, I always admired your mind. The way your brain worked. The ideas you had, your diligence in research. Your sense of humor!

You left this world not knowing this, but in your last few months you helped me – in a way you might not have imagined. When you were going through treatment, when you observed others being treated for lung cancer, struggling with all their might just to take a breath — that reached me. You didn’t know it at the time, but you were talking me into kicking cigarettes after 25 years. Labor Day weekend of this year, I left the smokes behind. You helped me do that. I can’t thank you now, but I can forever be grateful.

I can’t forget your smile. I can’t forget your heart. I can’t forget how you so genuinely gave a damn for everyone you called a friend. I can’t forget the mark you made in my world, and the worlds of so many others.

And now, if it’s all the same, I think I’m just going to cry for a bit.

A.J. Morning

phoenix@cybernothing.org

 

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17
November

Back at MAPS

J.D. and I both worked at MAPS back in the day, and had pretty regular disagreements. We were both a lot younger then. I was pretty mouthy, not recognizing the wisdom that J.D. was often offering. And MAPS was also a pretty poisonous environment. I’m glad that what happened back in those days didn’t keep me from learning to appreciate and learn from J.D.’s insight and wisdom later on. I’m glad that didn’t keep us from our later online interactions, as simple and limited as they were. When I search my saved email folder, there is so much there to and from J.D., and it’s all valuable stuff, steps on how to improve email, the internet, life. A bit of how to deal with the jerks, and occasionally, a bit of begging that he not lump me in with the jerks.

I didn’t know J.D. as well or as close as others. I regret that. But I am so amazingly lucky to have known him and been able to listen from him and learn from him.

Also, blue hair and a fantastic taste in music: J.D. was, and remains, cool.

— Al Iverson

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17
November

Heartbroken

I am almost at a loss for words.

In 1993, JD and I co-wrote the alt.internet.media-coverage FAQ ( see http://www.uni-giessen.de/faq/archiv/internet.media-coverage-faq.part1-2/msg00000.html ) which helped manage what was then a nascent journalistic community on the internet.

JD was probably one of the strongest forces for good on the internet I’ve met. It is hard to lose friends, it is even harder to lose friends when they are so young. I have lost a friend but more importantly, the whole internet has lost a friend and one of the people who helped make discourse on the internet substantially better.

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17
November

One of the good ones

I knew J.D. long ago via his work with MAAWG.  It is sad to see one of our good technical leaders pass.  So few can match J.D. interest in making “everything work the right way”.

-Rob

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17
November

Remembering a very kind and friendly person

I met JD through the SF Bay Area music scene.  He was the guy with the long, colored hair who never failed to offer a genuine smile and a light-hearted hello to anyone.  It was inevitable that we should become acquainted because he was so available for conversation whenever I saw him.  I remember walking the grounds of a musical event early early in the morning and sitting on hay bails by the gate, chatting in the morning stillness.  Bye JD.  You’ll be missed in the old familiar haunts.

-Christopher

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17
November

Alas

Needless to say, he was the leading purveyor of industry counter-rhetoric solutions.  We won’t forget him, but we’ll miss him. -ale.

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17
November

Goodbye, J.D.

You’ll be missed.

Marty

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17
November

Rest easy, JD.

I only knew JD for a year, but during that time he was a voice of reason in a sometimes cacophonous group. I will miss his easy-going, straightforward way.

All the best to his family and friends.

Monica

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17
November

Rest easy, JD.

I only knew JD for a year, but during that time he was a voice of reason among a sometimes cacophonous crowd. I will miss his easy-going, straightforward way.

All the best to his family and friends.

Monica

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17
November

Pie & Smiles

I was not that close to JD, but we knew each other for years and would sometimes correspond. Of course I knew him through his Internet-related work but that’s not what comes to mind when I think of JD. Whenever I think of him, I always remember this one time years ago, when I was in DC I think for NANOG, and he invited me to his home, where he made a banoffee pie that was incredibly delicious, and served it up with the hugest of smiles. I’ve carried that memory with me for – 15 years? Something like that – and it just breaks my heart to know the world will never taste that pie or see that smile again.

-Hillary (Gorman) Israeli

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17
November

Condolences to JD…

Dear JD,

You’ll be greatly missed by many, many people across the internet community – those of us that have had the honor to meet you (in person or “online”), and those that haven’t.Hugs, support & sympathy go out to your family in this time.

Udeme Ukutt

postmaster@synacor

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17
November

Heaven has a new cool Angel now.

I knew Hope Barrone as a friend growing up in the same hometown. Also my family knew her family. I had not seen her or talked to her in years until I saw her and her husband on Facebook. I became fast friends with J.D. chatting about many topics. I never met him personally but knew of his amazing and tireless works. J.D. is someone that once you talk to him, you never forget him. And I will never forget him. 

Luke Rademacher

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17
November

Pie & smiles

I was not that close to JD, but we knew each other for years and would sometimes correspond. Of course I knew him through his Internet-related work but that’s not what comes to mind when I think of JD. Whenever I think of him, I always remember this one time years ago, when I was in DC I think for NANOG, and he invited me to his home, where he made a banoffee pie that was incredibly delicious, and served it up with the hugest of smiles. I’ve carried that memory with me for – 15 years? Something like that – and it just breaks my heart to know the world will never taste that pie or see that smile again.

-Hillary (Gorman) Israeli

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17
November

Words

I don’t remember when I “met” JD online.  By the time CAUCE started, I already had known him for a while, and by the time I got fed up with the early wrangling and created the Provisional Board, I knew that JD was a sane and calm voice who needed to be “in” rather than “out.”  I met JD physically when we all got together at his house to stuff envelopes.  When I got older and needed to be calmer myself, JD was someone I emulated.  I never spent all that much time around him in more recent years – our paths were too different – but I’ll miss him nonetheless.

– Scott Hazen Mueller

 

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